sin, we can hurt ourselves in various ways.
can do penance by punishing ourselves for our sins.
can bear a grudge against ourselves, “I know that God forgave me,
but I can’t forgive myself.”
can avoid church or Christians because we feel unworthy.
3 things that we need to overcome in order to forgive ourselves:
that we can’t get off easily.
suffer something for our sins.
just let Jesus do it all on the cross.
9:14, “how much more will the blood of Christ, who through the
eternal Spirit offered Himself without blemish to God, cleanse your
conscience from dead works to serve the living God?”
the purpose of guilt?
It is to
bring us to God so that He can do what? —Forgive us.
purpose of guilt is not to make us feel bad or to make us miserable.
the means of guilt.
purpose of guilt is to bring us to a place where God can wash
us clean from all of our sin.
like a street sign that points the way to God’s forgiveness.
often, instead of going to where that sign points, we pull it out of
the ground and beat ourselves with it.
sin, don’t beat yourself; let God bathe you.
your thoughts to be free and not burdened.
cleanse your conscience.
feel that we need to prove the sincerity of our remorse or repentance
by suffering--by showing others that our sin does make us squirm.
case we are more concerned about how others will perceive us than
what God wants us to believe.
6:1, "Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be
noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is
repentance a righteous act? Indeed.
turn your repentance into a drama.
It is good
to let others know that you have repented, but don’t make a show of
put off repentance and forgiveness until you feel that you have
convinced others that you are now worthy of it.
that you sin, you have met every qualification necessary for God’s
Yes, it is
good for people to know that you have repented so that they too can
be fearful of sin and its consequences.
don’t have to prove your repentance to them.
Matthew 3:8 says, “"Therefore bring forth fruit in keeping
with repentance;” and Acts 26:20 says, “that they should repent
and turn to God, performing deeds appropriate to repentance.”
both of these cases the fruit and deeds flowed out of the repentance
and were, in fact, evidence of the repentance.
validity of your repentance is not determined by other people but
only by God.
provide a certain sense of security.
think of yourself as a total failure then you can anticipate
yourself as a complete failure is actually seductive.
you to continue to sin, “I’m just such a loser that I can’t do
anything right.” Or, “There I go again; what is wrong with me?”
enables you to avoid responsibility before others; “I’m
hopeless.” Or, “Don’t give it to me because I mess everything
is not humility.
is not what God wants.
is actually self-centeredness and a not-so-sly way of avoiding
responsibility before God, before yourself and before others.
Corinthians 12:9, “And He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient
for you, for power is perfected in weakness.’ Most gladly,
therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, that the power of
Christ may dwell in me.”
not give you an excuse to be helpless.
you a reason to fall before God and to let Him lift you up and to let
Him pour His power into you.
doesn’t want us to be like a fish flopping out of the water and
us to be empowered by Him so that He can use us in other people’s
when we can’t forgive ourselves it is because we are dealing with
fallen short of our ideal.
have a circle of permissible sins.
sins that a) we do so often that we can have an almost glib response
of, “Oh, I did it again.”
sins that we don’t commit very often or even at all but which we
don’t take very seriously.
response to this sin might be an, “Oh, well.”
when we sin outside of this circle we can be shocked.
We can be
overwhelmed by our own disgust. “I can’t believe that I did that!
That’s what other people do.”
outside of our own perimeter of respectability.
need to realize how weak our flesh is.
aren’t destroyed by our own failure.
stand before God like the inflated selves that we put on our resume.
before Him vulnerable and naked.
eyes there are no circles of sin where inside the circle those sins
are expected and somewhat OK, but those sins outside of the circle
are terrible and punishable.
But do you
valuable because God values us; not because we have reached some
story of the prodigal son the father does not allow any self-pity.
says, “I am no longer worthy to be your son.”
father, instead, puts on the robe.
want to experience the pains of remorse and self-pity then you will
close in on yourself.
solution to forgiving yourself is to draw near to God.
your self-contempt and put it onto Christ.
can cover and heal the contempt and shame of the wound of sin than
Jesus Christ Himself.
see ourselves as dirty and sinful and unworthy and then stay in that
mindset, we are not being humble.
opposite, we are being proud because our focus is on ourselves and
not on the cleansing work of Jesus Christ.
says, “I am a such a sinner that even God cannot lift me to my
says, “I am a sinner, God have mercy on me.”
look at one verse in depth.
1 John 1:9-10
confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
going to look at some of the words in this verse so please keep it in
mind as we go through this.
is to admit to God the wrong that we have done.
It is not
to hide the sin or to deny it.
It is not
to make excuses or to blame someone else.
God asks from us is that we be honest.
faithful and just.
scriptures, God’s faithfulness is tied to His promises.
always do that which He has said.
1:20, “For as many as may be the promises of God, in Him they are
yes; wherefore also by Him is our Amen to the glory of God through
10:17, “and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no
“just” is interesting.
associate justice with punishment; not with forgiveness.
does justice play into this?
because Jesus Christ died on the cross to pay the entire sum of the
penalty for our sins.
God raised Him from the dead.
know what the significance is of the resurrection?
God raised His Son from the dead, it showed that He fully accepted
Jesus’ payment for sins.
Christ is proof that God will, indeed, forgive us of our sins.
So when we
confess our sins, God must forgive us or He won’t be just.
So He is
faithful to forgive because He has promised to do so, and He is just
to forgive us because Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again.
interesting to note that the word “our” in “to forgive us our
sins” is not in the Greek.
this really sets up a subtle contrast between this expression and the
may be paraphrased, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and
righteous to forgive the sins we confess and to cleanse us from all
is that when we confess the sins that we are aware of, God will
cleanse us completely and thoroughly from all unrighteousness.
need to agonize over sins that we can’t remember.
care of that Himself.
“cleanse” means to wash clean.
Hebrew culture it meant to take a dirty pot and to make it shiny.
So we can
paraphrase this entire verse as, “If we acknowledge our sins to
God, He will be faithful to His promises and remember that His Son,
Jesus Christ, paid for those sins and He will remove the guilt of
those sins and wash away all of the dirt from all of the wrongs that
we have committed and we will shine like new creation”
take a brief look at one man in the Bible
14: 29-31, “But Peter said to Him, ‘Even though all may fall
away, yet I will not.’ And Jesus said to him, ‘Truly I say to
you, that you yourself this very night, before a cock crows twice,
shall three times deny Me.’ But Peter kept saying insistently,
‘Even if I have to die with You, I will not deny You!’"
is that Peter was with the rest of the Apostles and they had just
eaten and had communion.
21:14-15, “This is now the third time that Jesus was manifested
to the disciples, after He was raised from the dead. So when they
had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, ‘Simon, son of
John, do you love Me more than these?’ He said to Him, ‘Yes,
Lord; You know that I love You.’ He said to him, ‘Tend My
incidences all of the disciples were present and both conversations
happened shortly after they had eaten.
guessing that when Jesus said in John 21, “Simon, son of John, do
you love Me more than these?” everyone thought back to the time
only about a month earlier when Peter thumped his chest and
proclaimed how he was so much more faithful than the others.
time, Peter was not so petulant.
first passage in Mark, Peter was saying that he was more faithful
than the other Apostles were.
failed in front of Jesus.
failed not is some small way like forgetting to do something; he
failed big time.
Jesus is asking Peter if he loved Him more than the other Apostles.
three types of love in the Greek language:
is the highest form of love.
It is an
unconditional love that flows from the heart of the one who loves.
It is a
love whose essence is that of self-sacrifice for the benefit of the
one who is loved.
It is a
love that comes from deep within every part of us.
It is a
It is the
love that is used in John 3:16.
the love that God wants us to have for Him and for others.
is the second highest form of love.
It is an
affectionate type of love.
not only on the quality of the one who loves but also on the quality
of one who is being loved.
It is a
love that responses to the pleasure or joy that the other person
gives to us.
usually used in the NT as a general attraction towards a relative or
a good friend.
type of love is Eros.
the basest type of love and is a love that desires to have or take
to emphasize longing, craving, and desire.
in culture it is tied mostly to physical desire.
So in this
situation in John Jesus is asking Peter if he agapes Him more than
the others in the room.
possibly remembering that similar situation in Mark, drops his eyes
and says quietly, “Yes, Lord; You know that I phileo You.”
humbled in front of his friends and in front of Jesus.
blown it before and in a way that was known to everyone.
look at a passage that Peter wrote later on in his life. It is 1
be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His
great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through
the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to obtain an
inheritance which is imperishable and undefiled and will not fade
away, reserved in heaven for you, who are protected by the power of
God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last
blew it more times than any other Apostle; perhaps even more than all
of the other Apostles combined was able to speak such words of power.
that he didn’t say condescending things like, “Even though I am
but a worm,” or “despite my many failures God still…”
used dynamic phrases such as, “blessed be,” “great mercy,”
“living hope,” imperishable,” “undefiled,” and “protected
by the power of God.”
time he wrote this he had learned that his strength, his confidence,
his security is in God no matter how many times he might mess up.
that his life is best not when he is focusing on himself and on his
failures but when he is focusing on God and His power and grace.
24:16, “For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, but
the wicked stumble in time of calamity.”
person allows no room for failure.
righteous person knows that he will fall.
that he will, by the power of God, rise up again.
doesn’t like when we sin.
gives us the room to sin.
we do, He is always compassionate, always forgiving.
And if God
forgives us then who are we to not forgive others or ourselves?
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